Your "Aside" is spot-on! I used to work as a drug and alcohol counselor and I'd have clients come in and say they missed a MH appointment and were kicked out of the agency. Even people who'd been seeing their therapist for like three years. I hate unfairness, injustice, whatever you want to call it. Hate it! Too many people believe that punishing someone for a mistake will keep them from making it again. It's gross, negligent, incompetent. So thank you for saying that!
We sound so alike (although I wasn't brave enough to go to uni). I've now been referred, by my psychotherapist, for a formal autism diagnosis after receiving a diagnosis of BPD/EUPD, PTSD and Autistic traits. I am now 59 and starting 2 years of twice weekly therapy for the BPD which may or may not be appropriate if I get the formal autism diagnosis.
I've spent most of my adult life in some sort of therapy or another. I have 2 autistic children (1 diagnosed formally the other informally) both of whom have managed to live a normal life. The eldest is happily married and the youngest is off to Cambridge in October to read Linguistics (apparantly it's a popular subject for autistic people).
It's so frustrating how long these things take for NHS therapy to start but I was relieved to get a diagnosis of something. I look forward to reading more of your journey.
Welcome Sharon, Have a look around on my Substack, there are 4 other posts relating to my journey. I’ve never found therapy works for me, the last one told me off (at 55) for talking about what she told me to talk about, 🤷🏼♀️.
It all sounded a difficult long process to go through. The way the assessment was conducted seemed rather strange and inappropriate too. Not what I would have expected. I’m finding it hard to access healthcare via the NHS too for me and my son. We just seem to be stuck on long waiting lists. I have dipped into private healthcare. But that isn’t straightforward either and expensive. It is really sad to see what has happened to the NHS. I hope the situation can be improved at some point. Sorry you had to go through such a difficult experience.
Thank you. I have now responded to the report and effectively put in a complaint without it being a complaint. An 8 page rebuttal has been sent. We shall see.
I would suggest that you put in a written complaint as I feel that the questioning you were subjected to was totally inappropriate and your assessor's sharing of his own beliefs and values just plain wrong. I have no experience of this type of assessment but perhaps, next time, you take someone with you.
Your "Aside" is spot-on! I used to work as a drug and alcohol counselor and I'd have clients come in and say they missed a MH appointment and were kicked out of the agency. Even people who'd been seeing their therapist for like three years. I hate unfairness, injustice, whatever you want to call it. Hate it! Too many people believe that punishing someone for a mistake will keep them from making it again. It's gross, negligent, incompetent. So thank you for saying that!
It ridiculous isn’t it. And yes, I also have a deep sense of injustice.
We sound so alike (although I wasn't brave enough to go to uni). I've now been referred, by my psychotherapist, for a formal autism diagnosis after receiving a diagnosis of BPD/EUPD, PTSD and Autistic traits. I am now 59 and starting 2 years of twice weekly therapy for the BPD which may or may not be appropriate if I get the formal autism diagnosis.
I've spent most of my adult life in some sort of therapy or another. I have 2 autistic children (1 diagnosed formally the other informally) both of whom have managed to live a normal life. The eldest is happily married and the youngest is off to Cambridge in October to read Linguistics (apparantly it's a popular subject for autistic people).
It's so frustrating how long these things take for NHS therapy to start but I was relieved to get a diagnosis of something. I look forward to reading more of your journey.
Welcome Sharon, Have a look around on my Substack, there are 4 other posts relating to my journey. I’ve never found therapy works for me, the last one told me off (at 55) for talking about what she told me to talk about, 🤷🏼♀️.
It all sounded a difficult long process to go through. The way the assessment was conducted seemed rather strange and inappropriate too. Not what I would have expected. I’m finding it hard to access healthcare via the NHS too for me and my son. We just seem to be stuck on long waiting lists. I have dipped into private healthcare. But that isn’t straightforward either and expensive. It is really sad to see what has happened to the NHS. I hope the situation can be improved at some point. Sorry you had to go through such a difficult experience.
Thank you. I have now responded to the report and effectively put in a complaint without it being a complaint. An 8 page rebuttal has been sent. We shall see.
I hope you get some acknowledgment and answers.
I would suggest that you put in a written complaint as I feel that the questioning you were subjected to was totally inappropriate and your assessor's sharing of his own beliefs and values just plain wrong. I have no experience of this type of assessment but perhaps, next time, you take someone with you.
Sadly, not allowed anyone else in with you for this.
Well that doesn't sound right. You are vulnerable. You take care of yourself.