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Lisa Andradez's avatar

Your story, whilst very different to my own, sounds similar to my family situation in so many ways. Going low contact was a choice I made a few years ago, in fact I now have zero contact with my *stepwitch* unless we meet unfortunately when visiting my dad in the care home (thankfully it has only happened twice but she was annoyingly as nice as pie to my face), and I have very minimal contact with one of my half brothers (the other one does not speak to me at all). My relationship with my sister (my only full sibling) is very difficult and we only really speak because of my mum (that's a whole other story of toxicity!) - all of them (my siblings), and my *stepwitches* side of the family go on family holidays every year, spend boxing day and other 'family' celebrations together, to which I, and my sons, have never been invited to, my siblings kids are also referred to as grandchildren where mine never were. So I get it completely and my only 'advice' would be to do what you need to do for the sake of yours and your family's health and happiness... we started again, me and my boys, began new traditions without them and deleted them from social media etc. I won't give them the benefit of my time unless they work hard for it, which seems cruel, but I have to put myself and my mental (and physical) health first and reduce the trauma they have caused.

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Patisu Lambert's avatar

Family can hurt us deeper than anyone. I am no contact with my sister but this Christmas, she proved that she still can wound me from afar. So sorry for you and your kids. It just shouldn’t be this way ever.

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