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Sarah Shotts's avatar

I feel much the same. I just wish the world didn’t like splitting us up by gender so often. We’re all just people.

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Andrea  Redmond Hind's avatar

Yes Tamsin! I really identify with everything you wrote.

BUT I wonder, is it absolutely necessary to forensically pick apart or examine one’s psyche in order to come up with a label?

Isn’t this just a needless waste of time? Life’s too short as it is.

Like you, I want to be acknowledged and accepted as ME.Not an appendage or a caregiver categorisation. Just Me.Take it or leave it. If it bothers you that much just f*** off and leave me be. (My Mission Statement - not directed at you.)

And another thing - when you reach A Certain Age you’re always called/listed as Mrs. Not me. Ms and proud of it. Oh

Also I hate the term ‘elderly.’ It’s dismissive and diminishing as if we’re incapable of rational thought.

I happily ‘identify’ (if I really have to identify as anything) as an Elder. By virtue of the fact that I’ve been kicking around this planet for more decades than I’m aware of.

And in indigenous cultures being an Elder is being a keeper of wisdom, knowledge and history of the people. Someone with standing and valued. eg African, Native American, Aboriginal and Far Eastern cultures.

We’ve got it so wrong here.

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